When you call a woman a slut

 i wrote this in repsonse to the Sydney “Slut Walk”. I will be the first to admit I have no idea what that was about but my issue is more with the connotation of the word itself so feel free to comment on that rather than the event.

1. when you call a woman a slut, you are saying she is good for nothing but her body. Her thoughts, feelings, mind, however good they may be, are simply irrelevent.

2. When you call a sexual assault survivor a slut you re-inforce all that they know, feel, experience about the event. that they, asked for it, wanted it, enjoyed it. NO ONE under any circumstances, asks to be raped. It doesn’t matter what they were wearing, how they were behaving, how much they’d had to drink. This, unfortunately, is one of the most common contexts in which the word “slut” is used.

3. The cultural comparison between “slut” and “stud” i.e that men are meant to have many partners and women, few. “sow his wild oats” and “screw around” come to mind while “whore, slut and slag” are often female comparisons. Men often bond over how many “chicks” they’ve “banged” whilst women are often referred to as “slutty” or “such whores” for the same behaviour.   I also think of the show Sex in the City. The producer, who’s name I cannot recall, was quoted as saying it portayed a picture of sexually liberated women. well, pardon the pun, fuck.. Does our liberation really revolve around wearing expensive dressess, three thousand dollar shoes of which we often have multiple pairs, and fucking any and every man we choose? no.. in fact, if this show was anywhere close to the reality of women, every single one of them would be labelled “sluts”  in fact, I think one character within the show is a self described “slut”.

4. When you call a young woman a slut you are saying to her – young boys will take advantage of you, and it’s perfectly fine, in fact, expected of you, to let them. if you don’t you are frigid and that’s just as bad, if not worse.

5. When you call a woman a slut, think of the fact that not so long ago, women fought for the right not to be called a slut, but to have control over their sexuality, and that control still does not exist.   If we are about regrouping and pushing for social change, these words cannot be part of our lexicon.  If you’re thinking about calling a woman a slut, just don’t.

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